The rain lasted for 2 days in Sichuan, but I’m especially happy for 2 reasons. First of all, we have made a magical effect in guiding children to read Di Zi Gui with their mothers. Secondly, my husband was worried about me and is coming to see me. He promised to send me to Haotang village for women’s training when I finish my work in Sichuan. Original article by Yonghong Zhou, translated by Shishi Ma, and edited by US interns Isabel Auyeung and Ally Nguyen.
Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for women in rural areas. In this blog post, she writes about an encounter with a woman who has gone through much pain and suffering.
Last year when I was in Sichuan Province, I met a 30-year old woman who attended one of my lectures. She would follow me wherever I went, and would bring with her everyone she knew who struggled with mental problems. She was thankful for my service but it also made me very tired. One weekend, she brought a relative, a 40-year-old woman dressed in all black. Just from looking at her, I could tell she had a very serious mental problem. She was thin and looked miserable. However, we were able to quickly build a trusting relationship, in which she shared her painful experiences with me. The lady had many problems, such as thoughts of suicide and aches in her chest, shoulders, stomach, and heart. She was always nervous and afraid of the wind, rain, darkness, and loneliness. She often cried over trifles and wished to divorce her husband even though he treated her well. Her husband took her to the hospital where she was examined by many doctors, but the diagnosis remained the same: she was healthy. Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for woman in rural areas. In this article, Ms. Zhou tells us about her future travel plans to counsel people in many provinces. Her schedule is packed for the rest of the year.
I have fought against mosquitoes for the third time and could hardly sleep last night. I woke up this morning feeling extremely uncomfortable. I picked up the phone from Yang Yi and then chatted with Wang Jun through QQ. I felt pleased and full of energy when we ended our conversation at around 12:30 pm. It was funds and the trust of Mr. and Mrs. Zhao and patient of staff that have encouraged me. Both Wang Jun and I said, “It is great to do something meaningful.” We planned the time to Sichuan 2 months ago. But something unexpected happened before I left. My sister and sister-in-law bot had an operation at the same day. My sister lived alone outside but no one looked after her. The entire burden was on my husband’s shoulder once I left. But there were 200 women waiting for me. Anyway, I came to Sichuan according my schedule, but seeing the need and sincerity on their faces, all the complaining had disappeared. They desired for knowledge and changes. I planned activities on Children’s Day. If the activities turn out to be successful, then they could be promoted to any non-profit organizations all over the country. With the support of Mr. Zhao, I did my work without any worries. Non-profit organizations, communities, and corporations praised my experience and plans. My work schedule has been arranged until the end of the year. Finishing the activities, I was going to practice my plans in Henan Province. I think these activities could be helpful in many ways—such as children education, couple relationship, interpersonal relationship, mental health, and childbearing. What I wish to say the most to Mr and Mrs. Zhao was, "Thanks for your trust." In fact, we just met for the first time and had built a trusting relationship that makes everything so much more possible. To the end of the year, I will travel to the north-west district and several inland cities. I hope our work will satisfy Mr. Zhao and our team. In addition that, thank my husband for his great support. Original article written by Ms. Zhou, translated by ShiShi Ma, and edited by US intern Kevin Mo. Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for woman in rural areas. She tells us about her conversation with a visitor from Hong Kong that is suffering from a recent, tragic event. To learn more, click here.
-- Below is a conversation I had with a Hong Kong visitor. Visitor: You are the most passionate psychotherapist I have seen, thanks all the friends who introduced you to me. Me: Thanks for your trust. What would you like to talk about? Visitor: I think I’m going to collapse. M: Why? Visitor: I must divorce my wife, otherwise I won’t wish to live any more. M: Could you tell me what happened? Visitor: My 14-year-old girl committed suicide several days ago, and I think it was the pressure my wife put on her that led to her death. M: I’m so sorry to hear that. Visitor: *sobbing* M: Is your wife your daughter’s biological mother? Visitor: Yes. M: Does she have any grudges against your daughter? Visitor: No, but she was always pushing her? M: Do you think that your wife is the only one to push your child? What about other people in Hong Kong? Visitor: No. M: Why was it that only your daughter chose to end her life? Is it all due to your wife’s failure in education and communication with your daughter? Visitor: I never thought about it. M: Is it only the mother's responsibility to educate the children? Visitor: My wife has a bad temper and doesn't care much about my daughter. She doesn’t know how to teach children. M: Well, if you know how to teach children and you have a good temper, then why did your daughter choose to leave you? Visitor: Because I’m always so busy with my work. M: Does your wife feel happy after your daughter passed away? Visitor: … She has been in hospital for a long time. M: In that case, why are you going to divorce your wife to hurt her more? Visitor: …… Visitor: Thank you, Ms. Zhou. I will go to see my wife. Original Article written by Ms. Zhou, translated by ShiShi Ma, edited by US intern Kevin Mo. Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for woman in rural areas. To learn more, click here.
-- On March 17, I was talking with the headmistress of a kindergarten about several problems with stay-at- home children, mother education, junk food and nonsense games children had. I assigned several tasks to the headmistress. 1. To promote Chinese Culture Education from the beginning of reading Di Zi Gui. 2. To encourage parents to join the parent meeting instead of grandparents. 3. To advocate family reading activity. At the moment, the headmistress was worried that children were too young to understand ancient Chinese prose, so parents and leaders wouldn’t support it. Based on my experience, I showed her concrete methods and expected to see results. To my surprise, in just one month, my guidance brought amazing effects. Nearly 200 children had recited most paragraphs of Di Zi Gui; all the children could dance san zi jing chopsticks; and 38 mothers had applied to join the “Happy Mum Reading Club” I was going to establish. The headmistress was very excited. Many education leaders learned about it and they supported and promoted all the activities I carried out here. On Children’s Day, I wanted to hold two activities—Mother Education Lecture and All reading Di Zi Gui. Mothers’ quality, children education and townspeople civilization will change a lot in less a year. My cautious plans were carried successfully out and I believe we have a bright future. Mr. Zhao and partners of Transparent Fish, I will bring good news to all of you. I believe I am worthy of your trust. Original article written by Yonghong Zhou, translated by Ma Shishi, and edited by US intern Isabel Auyeung. Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for woman in rural areas. In this article, we read about her experience and counseling appointment with one of her patients who thought he needed help.
-- An old couple was led by their daughter in-law to come to the Counseling Room. The old man wore an outdated suit and a grey-blue hat. His wife was in a plaid jacket, newly brought by her daughter in-law, and came in with a big smile. The obedient daughter in-law supported her father in-law with her hands. It seemed that they had a very harmonious relationship. The old man couldn’t wait to talk with me. ”Mrs Zhou, I believe that you can cure me. I have seen several doctors in several hospitals and spent a large sum of money, but none of them have been able to cure me. Even one of doctors said I was not sick. If I am not ill, why do I feel so uncomfortable?” His daughter in-law told me that his father in-law cared about his health way too much. Recently, the old man had been worried and sleepless for more than a month. His children took him to see doctor, but the doctors have all said that there was nothing wrong with him except a mild Vegetative nerve functional disturbance. I asked the old man when he usually goes to to bed in the evening and gets up in the morning, and what he thought about before sleep every day. He told me that he went to bed before 8 PM and would get up at 4 AM. Before sleeping, he would mostly think about who managed the farmland and who took care of his wife. He always dreams of his parents who died a couple of years ago. Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for woman in rural areas. In this article, she writes about her mountain peregrination with a girl she is counseling, and an encounter with a poor shepherd.
-- When doing public service, one must serve with a loving heart. I told this story before: there was this high school girl who had a lot of pressure from studying, as well as a high self-esteem and a bad relationship with her mother which led to her obsessive-compulsive disorder. One of her friends introduced her to a downtown psychiatrist treatment center, and within four months, spent about 30,000 RMB (~4,800 USD). By chance, the director of the women in the town recommended my counseling and she was able to find me. The first time when we met, she told me that she could not go to her school classes, and even at home she felt extremely unhappy, irritated, and anxious because of this situation. So far we have only met 4 times, and after the second time we met, her parents called and happily said: "This time we are on the right path! Our whole family has hope now!" Yesterday was the weekend and the girls asked if she could see me. I told her mother to let her take the bus to come to the hillside to find me. Now is that season where the grass green, flowers are blooming, and I believe that nature would be a much better place than my counseling office. Since we will be going up the mountain, I was a little concerned about the safety issue. So I sent my husband to scout ahead of us and also take pictures for us as well. As we walked down the road, there were rows of pines, fully bloomed apricots, and I talk to her about nature, life, and her future. We found a smooth place to sit down and I asked her take out the homework I gave to her titled “My Dream." I had her read it out loud in front of the mountain and the nature, along with a passionate voice, appropriate language. The way everything fit together and her description of her dream really touched me. It was as if I could see her dream become reality already! How is it that this girl needs to take medicine? She's fine the way she is! Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for woman in rural areas. She talks about her recent health issues and the work she still has to do.
-- Recently, because of my poor health, I was not able to go to the countryside. And even while I have to do infusion therapy, I also have to prepare my next segment of work. I sit in bed with a computer on my lap, doing a series of courseware and organizing the files of many visitors. These files include mental health knowledge training courseware, children's education, interpersonal communication skills, prenatal care, and early childhood. After I finish, if there is any public service team in need of this, I am completely open for service and can help them! -- Original Article translated by ShiShi Ma, edited by US intern Kevin Mo. Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for woman in rural areas. She writes about a life-threatening experience caught in a snow storm when returning home from a trip.
-- I came home a little worried on the 17th of this month because the weather report said that Beijing had bad weather that forced the airport to delay hundreds of flights. Arriving in NanChong airport, I heard that the plane would arrive on time, so I called home to ask for pick-up at the airport. Turns out they had already left in the pouring rain. Nevertheless, the plane was still delayed due to air traffic control. I looked forward to take off; I looked forward to land. When I walked out of the airplane, snowflakes fell from the sky as it was below zero degrees. It was about midnight. Jing and XiaoLe were already waiting for me. I gave XiaoLe a hug, and also wanted to give Jing one, but I saw his fatigue and I felt sorry. Outside, snow fell heavily, and half the street was filled with snow. There were only a few vehicles; the three of us forgot to consider that not many vehicles went to the ring directly. I have never in my life encountered such traffic; I could hardly see in front of me, heavy snow kept falling, and it was as if countless jumping elves kept flashing in front of my eyes, making me dizzy. The car could only move about forty steps at a time. Ms. Zhou focuses on mental and psychological counseling for woman in rural areas. This update documents a fun contest she hosted in honor of this year's National Women's Day.
-- I had planned activities for this festival over a month ago. I sought out five contestants, and the theme was "What kind of woman is the most beautiful?" It was what my lecture would be about. The first contestant, a village kindergarten teacher, was very talented. She gave her speech "The Most Beautiful, Happy Woman". The second contestant was a woman's director of a village, and among the five contestants, she was the only one whose contest paper was left completely unaltered because I was afraid I might damage its simple beauty. In it, she wrote, "Women who are very sentimental are the most beautiful women; a fourth generation woman is the most beautiful woman; women working in the fields are the most beautiful women; and having the courage to stand on the stage, like me, also makes the most beautiful woman!" |
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